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Post by gsdgroupie on May 28, 2020 15:06:25 GMT
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Post by cloud on May 28, 2020 15:06:43 GMT
Heartbreaking, hugs to you Caryll, Dempsey is home with you where he belongs.
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Post by cockneychris on May 29, 2020 18:08:23 GMT
I had firm plans for Aide’s ashes. She was to be scattered by her favourite pool over at Hylands Park, yes most definitely. In actual fact, 3 years on, She is still guarding my clothes in my wardrobe. I don't look at them but I know she is there. Thinking of you and your family Caryll.
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Post by Carlin on May 29, 2020 19:17:11 GMT
I buried my cat, Vilse, in the woods (quite illegally mind you) near me when he died November 2018. I did this for financial reasons as I could not truly afford the cremation costs. They are quite high here in Sweden. I let Sera, who was much closer to me and very MY cat, be cremated and placed in a mass grave when she passed. Sera was gone and she had left me while I held her in my arms. What was left was just the body which allowed that incredible individual and personality I knew and adored to show itself.
Not everyone has my perspective when it comes to death and loss. My will actually stipulates that I shall be cremated and there will be a wake at an Irish pub where a proper Irish Whisky will be mixed with my ashes while The Pogues are played and everyone has a good time and gets happily tippled.
I celebrate the life of the individual I knew and the joy they brought me and continue to bring me with the memories that live within me. The love they have shared never dies even if I miss their presence in my every day.
I still reflexively wait for Sera to greet me at the door as she had done for almost 16 years. I still feel a bit of sorrow when she isn't there. I still feel grateful for our time together and know I was blessed by her presence in my life.
That is where I put my focus.
I hope you can find your own fast point to help you in your process.
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Post by foxyjess on May 31, 2020 8:22:26 GMT
Dempsey's ashes came home today. Bawled my eyes out. Sending all my love xxxx |
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Post by jengee on May 31, 2020 17:44:04 GMT
Sending love ♥️ 🌈
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Post by caryll on Aug 14, 2020 9:51:37 GMT
Well, it'll be exactly 3 months on Sunday.
Not a day goes past when I don't think of him. My phone and work computer wallpapers are him & I say goodnight & good morning every day.
I miss his exasperating, comical ways.
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Post by gsdgroupie on Aug 14, 2020 10:45:08 GMT
Wow, three months already? You have good memories that will stay with you forever.  |
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Post by caryll on Aug 14, 2020 11:05:56 GMT
I know, and it isn't as heart wrenching as it was. Every time I've lost a dog I wonder if I can go through it all again, but I always do!  |
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Post by goodie on Aug 14, 2020 12:48:17 GMT
We "lost" (somehow I feel that is the wrong word) Lola (the last shep) 8 months before we "found" Axel, one of our neighbours immediately said when he seen him: "Is that a replacement?". I said "no, of course not, they are all individually different with their own characteristics, you do not replace dogs". I know how you feel, most of us do, it is like losing part of you, but as Jacqui says, the good memories linger and that is the best thing you can (or should) focus on.
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Post by foxyjess on Aug 16, 2020 6:15:19 GMT
Gosh that’s gone quickly.
You’ve done so well and you’ve done the hardest bit. Every day the pain will ease a little more and more and more memories will shine through.
Xx
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